care for the newborn : LOVE THE KID AND MOM
Scientists have proved that the love of parents to children is not instinctive, and children are not instinctively "fall in love" in mothers at the time of birth. The infant and parents find each other gradually and only after a few weeks of Dating begin to feel what is difficult to find an explanation.
At this time the baby experiences conflicting emotions. As said by the famous doctor and psychologist E. Erikson, the infant is in a situation of conflict: initial initial trust against distrust. And as soon as this confrontation fully depends on the relations "child — parents" in the first year.
If your baby is breastfeeding, hugging, kissing, immediately responding to its cries, talking and playing with him, he understands: the world is a safe place where you can trust those who are close. That is, he makes sure that I was not mistaken in You!
If a child is in early childhood loses heat (emotional and physical), it then looks for his whole life. And it will end, nobody knows. Or in spite of everything he creates around itself a positive space that succeeds the strongest, or adapt to the circumstances, but his soul will forever dwell the feelings of loneliness, inferiority and frustration.
It is believed that immediately after birth a child begins the period of increased sensitivity in which and are installed or not installed close to your parents. According to Erikson, in the first weeks of life to develop a "basic trust in the world". Now a lot depends on you. Don't postpone love later! After all, the baby is ready to give you my constantly.
The first word the newborn will be his... smile. Don't be surprised. A baby communicates with you in language which is fluent in the language of emotions. They affect the mental development of the child and even his health.
Later, after a few months the baby will be more to listen to what you say and not how. Now he sensitively catches your tone, mood, expression, and character touches.
How to respond to feelings?
Know that the child is most expensive? Your attention. Don't be afraid to take the kid on hands (especially the dad who is afraid "to break something"), and communicate! Even when you are in another room, do not leave the child in silence. Psychologists advise parents to record their vote on any carrier and switch it on, leaving the nursery. Believe me, baby it is necessary. He hears you and knows that it's all right, he's not alone. He needs stability!
Try to be consistent and predictable. Children love rituals, which are repeated every day. If you soothe a crying baby the same way (take the hands, rocking, singing), then it will wait for this and, having received, immediately cease to be capricious. Listen to his wishes. He is not always cries, only when hungry or wants to sleep. He, like adults, also feel bored and sad.
Encourage your child to think that he is loved. It is impossible to spoil. But you can feel the reciprocity.